"I will help you ask for training from the adults. As for not hurting girls...be careful of that talk here, please, squire. The women here are tough. I appreciate that you don't want to hurt any of your sparring partners, but if you are gentler on the women than on the men simply because of gender, that will not earn you a good reputation here. Determine another's skill level, and fight appropriately. As for Gerd...she has had some training, though not much. I'm thinking perhaps that as you improve your skill, you might also be able to coax her into working on her own some more."