"Or make him all the more confused on why... but yes. Gentle honesty if I can manage it" A nod "Thanks, Zara.I tell the grumps things, but a lot of times I get this sort of ... 'well, at your age' talk and so on and they mean well but you know how grandames and greybeards can be ... they might have done it, but they have years to act as a shield. I don't."