"Been there, in my own way" He nods and strokes her hair "Look. I got a million cliches, follow your heart, try hard, believe in yourself, do good. But the real truth is, most of that stuff you've got down. You already try to do what's right. You already try to not punch down when you could be offering a hand up. You give a shit, but try not to let that shit own you. You got more of your crap in one sock than many adults I know. I think you should talk to your mom too, and others you trust. To get their perspectives. But I hope I've been some help. And yes, I think yo ushould realize how many options you have- even if I realize too many choices can be almost as scary as too few. Find your own paremeters. Take Brekke, she's not just 'chief woman' and 'Storm lass' she's also a ranger who secretly loves bopping sidhe into the air when they joust and grins just a bit when she gets to fly the Kestrel or ride fast on Stormwake. Your mom isn't just your mom, and hearth, and my wife, she also enjoys dancing, yelling at TV characters when they do stupid shit and ignore her advice, and actually likes arm wrestling events where she gets to surprise folks. A troll should be passioate about their duty, and Duty is major pillar of who and wha they are, but it is only ONE pillar, one part. Don't get so caught up in how you're best serving that you forget how to live"