"Honestly and Gently if you can. Honestly if you have to pick. Look, somethings aren't my business, but ..." A look at her "There's a danger in power dynamics on another level here. EVEN when it's not intended, Storm and Sub Chief stuff aside... working and living with a romantic partner can be tricky. " He is thinking more of what his wife might be concerned about than himself , atl east to the same degree, but if he says 'your mother says' the young girl might have an urge to bristle . If he says it without that and first... she might avoid any natural rebellion and really think it over. Though she has been growing up a lot so that happens less and less "Let's say you decide Darkgate is for you, at least for a trial period. Will you have your own office? your own bed room? WHEN, not if, the Chief asks you and the Storm for advice, how are you going to handle with Colton disagrees with you? How is he going to handle it? How will you handle it if he acts hurt? He's an annoying decent guy, better than any ex Leannhaun stooge should be, but you ARE both young and there's testing your relationship, and then there's shooting straight to the finals and then realizing you don't know the subject matter. I am NOT saying that's not your choice, both of you have that right, but I'm saying... as a man who eventually married a hearth, that it can be tricky and the pacing can affect things"