"Oh, well, whatever the term, they're not comfy with it and I wont' have them uncomfortable in their own lodge. " A thought "You know, that 'other side' thing is, well, if we grow up and that sets folks at ill ease.. then we might feel unwelcome. I know that's not your plan, becaue your'e one of the most open minded and tolerant folks I know, but there's a danger of seeing otherp laces as more 'home' than here if a wilder feels they can't be themselves about their family. Meaning no disrespect to either of you"