"Brekke" he says shaking his head "i've known you for years, and let me tell you, being a parent is complicated no matter what your offspring is like. If they're too much like you, they end up annoying you because they hold a mirror up. If theyr'e too different, they feel like they are from another planet. But the key is love, and I don't need a file on you to know that you are a great mom, and Frank is a great dad. That girl is happy, AND competent, and you both work to prepare her as best you can. Siv's parents have given her a whole trunk of good things to work with. No parent can do more than you two have. You teach, you trust and provide order as best you can in the amounts you think they can handle, and you love. You and Frank don't need anyone's approval, but assuming you don't mind it being offered anyway? You done good"