#ooc

So yes, CORRECT me.

If you like... but only if you like. If you don't like, I won't.

If I don't like it, tell me anyway.

Only way I can improve or know how others see things.

Only because you have said to. If someone doesn't want to be critiqued, and I do it anyway, that's intrusive, hurtful, and wrong.

I disagree. What if they haven't thought of something?

Is it better to avoid them and never let them know why?

Is that less hurtful?

Yes, can be.

Imagine someone you know coming up to you and detailing every little thing you do wrong as far as they are concerned.

I'm not talking about "Hey, you have spinach in your teeth, I'd want someone to tell me...."

I'm talking about a detailed listing of your personal faults.

That's how I see it. I'd rather give someone an idea they may not have thought of, and give them the chance to go, "Huh. I didn't think of it like that." Than just play the game of, "Guess why I am not playing with you."

So you've addressed Taj-P on this sort of thing?

Madeline-p and I have discussed it, we realize we have different ideas, and we are cool. Had I just ignored her entirely, I think that would have been worse.

YES.

In person, too.

We discovered the things we agree on, and what we don't.

Well, more power to you and I'm impressed by that. The fact remains, once the message is received... to continue to beat the drum IS going to turn people off.

I don't think a message is received when someone assumes every single thing is a personal attack. Hence, why I explain further, showing it isn't.

It's not beating a drum, it's showing why it's not personal.

I don't know if it's always interpreted that way. Mind you, often the other person's state of mind is at play here, and text-based comm is difficult at best.

Agreed. I am not the best at picking up that stuff, and that's why I prefer to over-explain than under-explain and leave people wondering what I really meant.

Picking Liz up soon, may van-eesh.

Patrol

Back.

WB

'The Gambler' is a vaguely depressing song.

Hugely depressing, dear.

Didn't want to overstate it, but yeah. Very.

I wasn't sure if it was meant to be, so was hesitant to mention. L