"Oh that," He says "Yes, pardon, I suppose I should take Fiona sensibilities more into account. Yes.. I can see. Mmm.." he says "have you considered gathering some commoners not of your hold, but of your fief, and asing for their advice? What would THEY do to such a man? without surrendering final say, ask about . Someone will suggest something graphic, eventually,a nd that's all you need to say "Had it been up to some in my fief among the good common folk...' and then you seem not only to heed them, but make yourself seem almost merciful."