CC's instincts are good... the wife would like... more. But she does without, stays faithful, and is starting to get annoyed with her husband for HIM not willing to show similar restraint. This is where CC might have read wrong. Handed out? Not quite. Howevewr, being in charge ..listened to, directing him for her desires at last... that she might like. Yes, male or female, she might like, but she would need to be boss of the triangle. And her husband might find himself to his surprise earning his way up the totem pole. She's far too nice a lady to act on these desires, of course. But there is a sense of 'he's lucky I AM nice'. and 'What about MY wild thoughts ? How come he gets to act on his but I don't.. dot dot dot..." She doesn't wish him harm, but take him down a peg or two? One way or another, and then maybe change some rules on her terms? Most tempting