Olgar says "Look, no shame if you want your dad watching you and supporting him, and the Barony WILL survive. Not like I am going to plan to lose right? But at the same time, you're the only one who probably COULD talk him into if you think he should compete. I'm not gonna hit you with the greater good thing or 'we all have to make sacrifices' BS. Pennons maybe a contest ,but it's also supposed to be FUN. So if you think you'd have more fun with your dad trying to scoop up a prize even if he misses your joust, tell him you think he should give a shot. If you will have more fun with him right by your mom cheering you on, go for that. Fathers are funny creatures, we really do aim to please, at least where family is concerned, so I bet he'd be okay with your preference"