#ooc

so I'm trashing the asshole here on line with a select group of friends to make myself feel better

Maybe he should spend more time paying attention to the kids and less time texting.

but then how would everyone know he's Right??

Ugh.

parental alienation is fuckery

He also held off signing the divorce papers until my sister's lawyer retired (Ful year) then backed out of everything he agreed to.

Jackass

sigh Yeah. This sounds too familiar.

uhg

Not identical, but familiar.

Does she have another lawyer on retainer? Because at this point, she needs to sue his ass.

She needs to get another. My own opinion is she plays too nice.

Breach of promise, emotional distress and harassment, negligence....

Yup.

yeah, she needs a shark

Oh HE got the meanest lawyer he can find.

Yup. Again, familiar.

And he was convinced she was cheating on him... (SPoiler, she didn't, but HE did twice while in Germany)

of course he did. scumbag

So add infidelity to the list.

She needs to sue for sole custody and a TON of child support.

I wish she would.

but he is a good dad.

I'm finding that hard to believe.

seconded

if you trash talk other parent in front of children, you are not a good parent. full stop.

Child of divorce here, have opinions.

He's just a shit husband who would call her and accuse her of sleeping around if he were ever assigned away for more than a week, and insisted while he was over seas that she allow remote access to her computer. Routinly called her a whore and worse etc

Exactly.

THERE IS NOTHING "GOOD FATHER" ABOUT THAT.

Sorry, loud opinions there.

And informed ones.

So I respect your input.

You're not a good parent if you're going out of your way to undermined the mental and emotional well-being of the other parent.

But now you see why "im so frustrated with not being able to do anything

yes

That undermines the support system for the kids.

Yeah, totally get it, Mr. D.

Makes me want to shake some sense into your sister.

Coradel wants to talk to her.

Ha.

Honestly, mom makes me crazy. She's always "Well, you know, his mother left him when he was a boy" and "You know, he really loves those kids"

And talks about how his career is doing as if I s hould give s a shit..

Yeah, fuck that guy

Oh, for fuck's sake....

He can love the kids and still be a piece of shit who is abusive

Your family has some serious gender-role issues, as far as enabling toxic masculinity goes.

TN

Hrmph.

I finally got her to back up saying "Mom. I don't care about _____ except that he is hurting my sister. I don't care if i t's fair. I dont' care that he had a ahrd life. I don't care that htey have both fought. IF HE WERE ON FIRE I WOULD NOT PISS TO PUT HIM OUT"