CC sighs "Darling, there is a difference between caring nothing for others, or even stomping in them to get ahead- and taking your own needs and dreams into account. You will do no one any good being less than you are, reaching for less than your hopes, it won't help them one bit for you to be ..small. To be without. Misery loves company but Misery is miserable so who trusts that judgement? You are ALLOWED to pursue happiness, you are alllowed to take care of your mental, phyisical , spiritual, and yes even material well being. "