"if the Duke and Duchess are making choices for your hold, which is to a large degree their right I suppose, it's in your own interest to send Innnish or another represenntivee there more oftenn than you do. To let them know your barony is an ACTIVE part of their land, and to give you eyes and ears for what politics are in play. Mom has Lucia go to Caer Falken on her behalf that, before that Nadeen. Worked pretty well. Gave some advanced warning"