"Course not" She says "You want to be able to share your life with your family, ALL of your life. " Gerd says with a wisdom beyond her years "You think Vegard, my past life, wasn't delighted to have Vali be a troll? No right of ignorance between them. Common Kith understanding. You KNOW You're going to love him if he's not a troll, kinain or other kith or whatever... but no shame in hoping you can relate to him and he to you in a personal way"