He stops, "Honey, the male sex drive is neither evil, nor toxic... it just is. And girls have a drive too. Boys, at least, in personal sense, have ...less immediate consquences sometimes? It can make them push more than the girls do, though that's not always the case. Your dad was never a good looking guy. Your mom sees past that. I was the guy who they moved to the other side of the street to avoid. And I resented that, and I thought the lot of them were stuck up bitches. Most weren't of course, they were just scared. Whether they had a right to be or not isn't the point, they were scared. Now, did your dad ever give them reason to be scared? No. My pride I guess as much as anything. If they had some expectations of me being a monster I sure wans't going to prove them right. But have I tried to cojole, weasal, and so on? WHen I was younger? Yes. And I got told no, and I backed up. Would you believe your mother told me no? And weirdly, I became a better man for it. Mind you, at the time I wanted to punch a tree while being showered in a glacier floe, but...the point is, long term gain."