"When the unseelie is on me, I can be a bit frivolous, but in this case, I think we could split the fun a bit. We do the solemn reading of the lost, respect for the ancestors here, then , if Sylvi is willing, we have some bobbing for apples and games more family friendly... while Goldfinch gets to be a little wild as suits. Wilders who want to hang here with a slower pace can... but the focus will be on the younger ones, while we grumps watch them go nuts. Goldfinch can have a few grumps visit, but they have to recognize it's going to be a big loud party"