"Perhaps not, but we're not going to help Adam by keeping everyone out of the loop. That's why we need specifics. Everyone talking to him doesn't realize he's already gotten it from others. You're right to tell them that Adam feels like it's all stick and no carrot. Now, that doesn't mean Adam is perfect, and the others might have points about how he could improve his own behavior, but you're not wrong in that Adam is feeling lost, frustrated, and confused. "