A pause, then, "I want you to understand something." A very serious look, "No amount of being afraid for you, no amount of frustration or vexation at any mistakes or judgements I do not agree with... none of that can equal how much your mother or I love you. I am not angry now, but if you ever worry about me being mad at you, remember it's nothing... NOTHING, compared to that. You're my daughter" And yeah, a nother hug "Go clean up, go to bed and rest."