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Good day folk

mmm

i should do something today

Got ideas?

bleargh

Had that idea myself. I have to say it isnt' as fun as some other options

I'd offer to game ya, but I get the feeling by something you mean touch grass, see sunshine, interact with people with faces

yes

idk, my one friend had a meltdown at SCA on tuesday and has been totally radio silent since

she's alive, she pops up on FB/tumblr

but I ain't even on seen

and I am half feeling like, well, if she doesn't want to talk to one of the last people who even talks to her, that's her choice

Was the meltdown involving you or were you more a witness to it?

And forgive if it's none of my biz

At SCA meeting, conversation turned to a social rift between current group & two longstanding members who have mostly quit

Pennsic was a subject of convo, I camp with the two who have mostly stopped playing

and social interactions with them have been strained

It has been a difficult time, and I've felt pretty hurt by what feels like a cold shoulder from them

they've also been downright nasty to several of the newer SCA folks, and so there's a lot of bad feelings

Jess is still on decent terms with the two of them

She yelled about how she is sick of hearing us talk about the subject, and hurled her cup down a stairwell before stomping out in a huff

I found her a few blocks away and gave her a rid the rest of the way homme, because, honestly, it was post busses and she had a ways to go

she hasn't spoken to me since

Geez. I can see why that would set off the anxiety weasels for you. It would have me confused and twitchy

Jess is... challenging, often, because she is often very angry

so I am not sure if she's pissed at me, or in a depression spiral, or both

And sticking your neck into the hole to find out is asking for a bite if the former

yup

so I am messaging at least once a day, trying to act normal

but I swear to god, I put up with a LOT of crap from her and I am kinda tired

Constant negativity gets old

I hear you. Do you live anywhere near her? I mean, if you want to risk a no, you could text her and say you're about to get 'coffee/ tea' whatever at this or that nearby place, and ask if she's interested. If you're just not up to playing the odds of negativity, maybe go to a museum or craft store or whatever that has moderately interesting stuff you might like? Even if alone you might have a good time.

Unfortunately, I worry that too often I am the negative one in my circles. Something I'm trying to work on, but I'm not entitled to bring everyone else down just because I'm sour

yeah

I tried luring her to chinese buffet, which is her favorite

Then you tried. She may need/want space, so give it to her for a bit. You'll do her no good being miserable yourself without knowing the facts. If she calls or texts with interest, I'm sure you'll go to help or support. Until then, you have a right, indeed, a need, to keep on living and preferably in a positive way if you can arrange it. My unasked for two cents

reassuring, yes

My social circles have been struggling lately

hugs Glad

I also miss here

I feel that. My housemates have a much stronger work ethic than I , and I respect them, but them working 50 plus hours a week each means i don't always get to chat with them, let along hang out as a group. And they are my only 'face to face' friends. And well, RL hammered us all here and continues to, no one's fault.

But it IS nice to know that if I can only pop in here for 10 minutes and no one is here, I can still leave a message of how I'm doing and get some cheers or sympathy left for me when I pop back in 🙂

Yeah 🙂

I have been doing a lot of SCA discord

and I am bad at balancing both slack & discord

Thumb up I've actually gotten into a discord game... it moves slower than molases 😉

I am looking at a pittsburgh set wta game

Ooo