And that's the thing. Miriam is a nocker, and she sees that she is less-than-perfect, and that irritates the hell out of her. With parenting, that means Really High Stakes, so how can she dare touch these kids and possibly fuck them up more? What gives her the right? One she already abandoned as an infant (through no fault of her own), and the other she flat-out forgot. How do you come back from that as a mom?