"Of course Dagmar didn't see it the way you did. You remember a father who loved you, so it hurt at the thought he would set you up. Dagmar never had a real dad until Jaymes, so for her , parents abandoning or failing her is the default. My dad says hardest part of consensus can be finding common ground but it's always there if you know where to look- and even if the sources are different, you share similar wishes"