#ooc

anddddd instead of on the couch, he's in the master bedroom to sleep. Given the kids are with them a lot it's probably JUST sleep but shit

uhg

What I wat to do is pull her aside and go "What the hell arey ou doing??" but at this stage getting her alone will be a pain in the ass

Yeah.

3 more days of this.

You can't control what other people do

no B!

I know it's a lesson I need to learn. I just want the ability to look away from the trainwreck, but that's family... I don't have that option

It may be your option is to wait for the wreck, and help pick up the pieces. Conserve yourself till then.

I wish I had that zen.

It isn't easy.

we all do

To learn, to keep, to have, to use.

Yeah. But I've went through 3 years of trainwrecks I warned about, got ignored, and then got asked to help with. It started to affect my health. I don't want togo through this again, selfish as this sounds.

Then don't. It's ok not to.

do not set yourself on fire to keep others warm

I hear the words Shady,but my family doesn't believe it and neither do I on some level

Tht said, AFK

I know.*Hugs*

family is hard

hm

should figure out Yule gifts for ER

Earl got his poe

August got Big Hanukkah

I think Cora is getting Ovid

Which Ovid?

art of love

If Cora must be so crass as to be with August, she can benefit from classic literature

*L* I love it.

It makes sense in Zara's head

need to deal with Daddy of course, but we're still sort of in ER yule

Zara IS there

Agreed.

I would suggest we time bubble but right now so much could effect....

exactly

Ok. I told my sister that it was her life, but that I had spent the last five years warning family of trainwrecks, got ignored, and then got told to help clean up, and that I loved her, but I would not promise for being there for Cleanup this time. I feel like an ass, but she says she understands.

Maybe August will be too busy to see Zara

oof, tough. hugs

August will NOT be too busy to see Zara. Not unless she pops and poofs.

He's been bugging Delores to see if Zara RSVP'd.

And yes, D&Co, that's a good situation.

I probably will be there for Clean up, who am I fooling? But she needs to know,silly as i feel using the term, that just because I recognize her agency does not mean I'm giving up my own later own when consequence arises. But yes, I love her anyway

hm

etiquette demands an rsvp

Yes, D - you can choose to help

not be obligated, y'know?

You can love her enough to let her enjoy her choices.

if they enjoyed them I'd be happy, it's when they make themselves miserable..grumble mumble

Mmm from what I gather, Zara is letting Earl know about the letter. So he will saddle up, armor up, etc. and sword up...with Ascot, and go with her whatever she decides

well, letter is after they get home from yule