the girl whose hard to get? Mandatory distance as proscribed by an honor culture...at first. He then pursues within the dynamics of said culture to entice her, by way that will not destroy her social credentials! She can only be SO open, SOfree. If she overplays this, shebecomes a cold fish and scorned as not fufilling her culture's future place for her. Underdoing it, she is a strumpet! And he? He must prove his reliability in the method he seeks her. He cannot break her boundaries, he must work to instead help reduce them. Face is saved on both sides. She is a Shipoopi girl! That perfectly Goldilocks standard of romantically willing