A sigh "You're missing my point" Jack says "There's no shame in mutual pleasure , and true intimacy on every level? that's somnething to celebrate... but purely selfish sex is like chinese food... pretty soon you'll just be hungry again. And if it's really selfish, hungry and alone more than before. You can't let the fact that it's work, sometimes damn hard work, to open up to someone and be vulnerable...keep you from doing it. One thing I know about you, you'r e no wuss, and it takes a REAL man to risk rejection when he's laying out some trust to a pretty thing that can crush his self worth with a few well placed barbed words. But you're the toughest guy around, yhou can handle it, and when the wham of getting shot down nails you, or harder, when you think you'fve found the one and it all goes to hell- and it likely will, come on down, I'll make you something to fit the mood. Eventually, Dreaming be kind, you'll find that lady who sees in you something she wants too, and it works best for all around. That's where the real men get separated from the boys, my friend."