"Actually, Sylvi, there is something you can do for me." A pause "wander around chore to chore. Kitchen work some... but help here and there... get a feel for who is upset about what things.. where they stand. I dont' want you to spy, but see if you can get them to open up. I want to see who needs help adapting, who already has... and more, I neeed to know which ones might have troubles they feel guitly bringing up when others are in greater need or so they think"